To all brides – wedding

Posted November 4, 2009 by joanwhalen
Categories: Bride, Wedding


The most important thing to remember is to  HAVE FUN! – The bride has been dreaming of this day all her life.   Whether she’s 20 years old, in her 30’s , early 40’s or 50’s – ENJOY THE PROCESS.   SAVOR THE ANTICIPATION.  Do all the silly. giddy things you thought about.  Envelop the joy around you.  Don’t overhwelm yourself with details.

If you are a career woman or the CEO of  your own company, treat the wedding like a party, not a business event. Even with all the advice from family and friends – DO IT  YOUR WAY.   Remember no matter how much time and effort went into planning the ‘human element’ will invariably come into play and throw an obstacle or two into the best laid plans. Find the humour in things gone awry. 



Coordinating – catering sales director

Posted November 3, 2009 by joanwhalen
Categories: Coordinating


Question:   I  have tried on numerous occasions to contact the catering sales director at the hotel where I  have booked my wedding and reception.   After about 2 days she answered my calls.  Usually she was more prompt than this.   I  have a lot of items to take care of and she is no help.

Answer:   The catering sales director’s job is to coordinate all the details pertinent to the event within the venue.  In other words, she COORDINATES all information with the head chef and kitchen staff – banquet manager – beverage manager – housekeeping – custodial department – and any other personnel within the venue who will be directly in contact with that particular event.   If you are calling her to help you with your personal items, plus getting in touch with all your vendors, time line, database, setting up appointments with vendors, etc etc etc.   THIS IS NOT HER JOB – THIS IS THE JOB OF A PRIVATE WEDDING COORDINATOR – If you do not have a wedding coordinator then I suggest you either hire one or have someone in your family act as a ‘POINT PERSON’  and let them know that this is work.

I have worked as a catering sales director and believe me you  have no time for a private life.   There were times when I put in as many as 72 hours in one week just keeping up with the changes that I had to pass on to all the departments.  


Coordinating – wedding

Posted November 3, 2009 by joanwhalen
Categories: Coordinating, Wedding


Question:   I am doing all the planning and coordinating for my wedding.   However, my family feel I should hire a professional wedding planner/coordinator.   I would much prefer to do everything on my own.

Answer:  Do take some time to think about this.  Ask yourself – “Do I want to be floating on ‘cloud nine’or drowning in details gone awry?   You be the judge of a consultant’s services.

weddings – chicken dinner

Posted November 3, 2009 by joanwhalen
Categories: Wedding


Question:  Why does a chicken dinner in some hotels cost as high as $70.00 per person.  This seems a bit extravagant.

Answer:   The chicken does not cost that much – it’s still a $2.50 chicken crossing the street.  What does cost money is the overhead (labor – production – materials – utilities – liability insurance etc.) that produces this chicken dinner.  It’s like a piece of gum – the stick of gum possibly costs .05 cents but the packaging, overhead etc plus advertising could bring that small package up to $2.00.

Tips of The Trade – Wedding Stress

Posted November 3, 2009 by joanwhalen
Categories: Bride


How to accomplish complete stress:

1. be overly detailed – meticulous – lint picking and demanding

2. Overspend – Tell all your vendors you can do their job better – Wait until the night before wedding to finalize details –

3. Do not eat breakfast day of wedding – To do so might calm your nerves

4. By all means do drink alcohol before the ceremony –

5.  Actually believe that your seating arrangement will make everyone happy

6. Be assured that the 8 piece band has plenty of room in a 10 foot by 8 foot space

My last comment is for family and guests


wedding – Venue

Posted November 3, 2009 by joanwhalen
Categories: Wedding


Question:  Some family members feel that because we  have chosen a ‘Five Star Location’ we are putting on the dog.  This is not the case – we just love the venue – how can we convince them of this?


Witticisims – coordinating

Posted November 3, 2009 by joanwhalen
Categories: Witticisims


Question:  One of the family members who has organized some parties as well as church socials, is a real know-it-all.   She is imposing her ideas on me which is causing a lot of stress.  What can I do.

Answer:   Let  her know that if she wants to run the show she can also pay for it.